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By Laura McDonald

Sometimes couples who divorce decide to get back together again. They may even wish to remarry for a variety of reasons, including having children together, religious or traditional views, taxes, or handling property and bills. Do they just get married again, like they did the first time? Yes, they can certainly do that.

A reunited couple can get married again, either by a religious or civil ceremony. They can spend money for another wedding of any size and amount. Pledging their wedding vows again may be very important to them.

Another option is elopement. Elopement can be as spur of the moment as a couple wishes. It is easier than planning a wedding. It can also be a cheaper option, or as extravagant as the couple wishes.

There is another option, which is to annul the divorce. Yes, you read that correctly. Annul the divorce.

What is a divorce annulment?

To compare and contrast the idea, some marriages are annulled. One case of an annulment which may be familiar to many is Britney Spears’ first marriage. Apparently Britney and her new husband realized their hasty wedding was a mistake almost immediately. The marriage was annulled, so it is like they were never married. It never happened. They got a ‘do-over.’

A divorce annulment is the same principle, but for the opposite goal. A couple who has been granted a divorce annulment is legally married. It is as if they were never divorced.

If interested in more information, check with an attorney on local procedure for filing and obtaining a divorce annulment. In this area in Kentucky, an agreed motion is filed with the clerk of the court where the divorce was granted. This motion includes facts of the timeline – when and where the parties were married, and divorced. It also sets out the parties’ agreement that they want the divorce annulled, and wish to be restored to the status of married persons. It is signed by both parties with their signatures notarized.

Since the couple is in agreement, a hearing may not even be necessary. If no hearing is required, the agreed motion is filed with a tendered order. The clerk locates the divorce file, and gives the file along with the motion and order to the judge for his consideration and signature.When the order is signed and entered into the court record, the couple is officially married. Each of them is restored to the status of a married person. It is as if the divorce never occurred.

It is rather interesting when you think about it; technically I suppose we shouldn’t call this current status a remarriage, or even married again. They have simply been married the whole time. Allowed “do-overs’ are nice.

Depending upon individual circumstances, it may be necessary to provide a copy of the order to agencies or companies as proof of the annulment. For example, if the couple filed their taxes separately the year before, they may need to furnish proof to the IRS. Reestablishing marital property may be another reason.Thus, couples have a few preferences and options to consider when making their reunion legal.

As mentioned above, restating vows may be very important to some couples. On the other hand, annulment of a divorce can be pretty special too, particularly for couples only married once. It means they are still bound by their one, and only, marriage partner. The divorce is erased, so it’s true. It affects statistics as well – children of such a couple can state their parents are still married. That’s quite an accomplishment these days.

About the Author: Are you fascinated by trials? Do you like helping people? A career as a Paralegal is challenging, rewarding, and NEVER boring. Sign up for free newsletters that show you how to step into this exciting career. Adventures await you…. paralegalsecretary.bravehost.com Laura McDonald is a paralegal. She is a member of NFPA (National Federation of Paralegal Associations). Laura is experienced in the areas of personal injury, civil litigation, family, environmental and corporate law, estate planning and bankruptcy. She works for Michael L. Hawkins & Associates, P.L.L.C., located in Frankfort, Kentucky. The firm’s website is mlhlawky.com

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By Molly Owens

Do you know the number one factor couples cite as crucial to their satisfaction with their relationship?

Thats right, its good communication. There are so many issues couples can disagree aboutmoney, children, in-laws, workbut whether or not these issues become problems depends on how well you can communicate.

If you have serious communication issues, you may need couples counseling. But if your relationship works most of the time, but you occasionally find yourself at a dead end when talking to your partneror if you sometimes just find yourself saying, What can he be thinking?!then improving your understanding of each other is the key to making your relationship even better.

We often marry people who are very different from ourselves, and this can be the perfect choice. If we find a partner who excels in the areas where were weak, that can make for a great team. Problems can arise, however, when it comes to understanding each others thinking. Heres an example:

David and Julie have been married for five years. Most of the time, their marriage works. David tends to be the forward-thinking partner; hes always looking at some new investment for the couple or dreaming up a home improvement project. Julie prefers to take care of the details. Shes the one to pay the bills on time and make sure that the couple is prepared to take on all those projects that David dreams up. They make a good team, but sometimes Julie gets annoyed with David having his head in the clouds all the time. David, on the other hand, feels like sometimes Julie is just too involved with mundane details, and cant see the big picture.

How can we explain this couples differences? There is a simple answer: personality type. Julie is a more concrete type; David is more abstract. According to the system of Myers-Briggs Personality Type, which is one of the most well-known and widely used personality theories in the world, Julie is a Sensor, while David is an Intuitive. Julie trusts what she can see; David trusts ideas. This is only one aspect of personality, however. There are four scales in total.

Extroverted/IntrovertedDo you get your energy from being around other people, or from being alone?

Sensing/IntuitiveDo you see whats real, or whats possible?

Thinking/FeelingDo you make decisions based on logic, or feelings and values?

Judging/PerceivingDo you like to plan and schedule, or keep your options open?

The four scales are combined to make sixteen total personality types. Each persons Type is described using a four-letter abbreviation; ISTJ, for example, or ENFP. The most common combinations for couples are a match for 2 out of the four scales; for instance, an ESTJ might be married to an ESFP. This means that most couples have a significant common ground in the way they think and make decisions. It also means that most couples have significant differences.

To find out your personality type, and that of your partner, the most accurate way is for you both to take the official Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. This is an approximately 45-minute test that has been extensively researched and validated. Your results will tell you your four-letter type and those of your partner, and allow you to compare your similarities and differences. Recently the MBTI has become available in an online format which provides same-day resultsso you and your partner can make a weekend project of studying your personality types.

Once you have figured out your Type and your partners, youre ready to take a look at how they interact. Heres a look at how differences can play out in a relationship:

Introverted partner with Extroverted partner: Often, an Extrovert can draw out an Introvert and introduce them to social events they wouldnt normally gravitate to. Similarly, an Introvert can help an Extrovert become more focused and self-reliant. Friction arises when an Extrovert wants more social interaction than their Introvert partner. The Extrovert may need to learn to be okay with attending gatherings alone.

Sensing with Intuitive: As we saw in the example of David and Julie, this couple has fundamental differences in the way they think and place importance on different aspects of life. Its important to focus here on the way these two qualities complement each other in a relationship; both aspects of this scale are needed for an effective team.

Thinking with Feeling: This is the only scale with a gender differencewhich means that women are more likely to be Feeling types while men are more likely to be Thinking. Having a balance on this scale can work well if each partner remembers that the other has something important to contribute. In every decision made together, both the logic of the situation and the values and feelings of all involved should be considered. Each partner should keep in mind that no decision should be made with only the head, or only the heart.

Judging with Perceiving: This difference most often shows itself in a simple exclamation: Why is he (or she) always late!? A Judging partner will sometimes see a Perceiving partner as flighty or unreliable; while the Perceiver may get frustrated that the Judger cant seem to be spontaneous. Again, the value comes in appreciating the difference. A more spontaneous partner can help a Judger to remember that not everything has to be planned and decided in advance, and a Perceiver can use a reminder that sometimes things do just go more smoothly when there is a plan or schedule.

If youre coupled with someone who has a different personality type than you do, remember, most successful couples do have significant differences. In fact, ten percent of couples have none of the scales in common. The key lies in understanding your differences, and remembering that your partners different viewpoint is an important contribution to your success as a couple.

About the Author: Molly Owens holds a B.A. and an M.A. in Psychology. She has a background in counseling, education, and the corporate workplace, and a passion for helping people discover their personality type and how it can help them succeed in relationships. For more information on Myers-Briggs Personality Type, or to take the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, visit

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